on Jul 28th, 2010 Lauren Dane is here for the POSSESS ME Obsession Celebration!! *Smutketeer fan-girl squee* We love her, can you tell? ;) We also love her recent release INSATIABLE
YUM!
Let’s give her a big Smutketeer welcome as she talks about possession, obsession and desire
LD: There is something primal about desire. Desire runs free through your system whether you will it or not. Sometimes it’s that beautiful pale lavender bag you see when you’re at the mall. The one that makes you stop and take in how the light hits it. You don’t intend to see it and have your attention snagged, it just happens.
Or when you’re driving and he walks by. Shirtless, skin gleaming from the run he’d just finished. Your breath hitches and there it is. You can be happily married and totally satisfied with your life and still get tingly looking at a man, or woman and feel something wild. Just for a brief second even. It takes over and it doesn’t care about context, it is bone deep and ferocious.
I love those things that run through us as humans. The wildness that exists just beneath the surface and I love to write about them.
Possession is one of those primal echoes of desire. A next step, if you dare. Because while desire is primal and at will, possession is a choice.
You choose to possess something, or to be possessed. Or sometimes both. There is something darkly sweet about it. It’s why I love to write romance, that intensity of connection, the desperate need to own, to give oneself to someone else, to want to be owned.
I don’t mean owned in a sense of someone taking freedom from another person. I mean wanting to make that person burn for you, wanting to look at them and know you’re free to touch them however you desire. Or having someone look at you and seeing it in their eyes, that hunger for you.
It’s a huge part of the allure of writing BDSM as well. Taking that possession and ramping it up. It’s not about the physical acts themselves, though hello, it’s part of the fun, but it’s about getting in the head of the characters. Knowing why she submits. Seeing it through her eyes when he looks at her and sees the beauty in the way she kneels. Understanding that she feels adored and cherished when he dominates her. You’re in her head when he possesses her and you can see it’s not a negative act, that his possession is adoration and she feels it.
And then you’re in his head when she does it. When he’s moved beyond words that she kneels when he tells her to, or that she likes the little love bites he leaves on her lower back. That he sees her as the most magnificent being on the planet and that she gives herself to him the way she does makes everything in his life better.
Possession isn’t sweet. It’s raw and hungry and it makes our chemicals dance with each other. I couldn’t imagine a world without it.
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The only thing I can say is WOW! Some people take the word possession and automatically turn it into something bad. Lauren Dane just took that word and made it into something we all want to have, to be possessed and likewise possess ourselves, sounds good to me LOL.
by Ivelisse July 28th, 2010 at 9:10 ami just finished reading INSATIABLE yesterday and it was a great book. i cant wait till the next one comes out.im also going to post about obsession week on my facebook and twitter page.
by REGINA ROSS July 28th, 2010 at 9:15 amLauren-thanks so much for visiting with the Smutketeers today! And the piece you posted-meow!
by Eden Bradley July 28th, 2010 at 9:24 amWow, Lauren, I love your post!
by Ali July 28th, 2010 at 9:36 amThe way you described desire and possession is right one, amazing, and hot
Hi Lauren. Fabulous post. The way you describe possession, obsession and desire.
by CrystalGB July 28th, 2010 at 10:26 amHi Lauren. Fabulous post. The way you describe possession, obsession and desire is amazing. I love your books.
by CrystalGB July 28th, 2010 at 10:27 amThanks for having me today, my lovelies!
Ivelisse – thank you!
Regina – So glad you liked it!
Eden – very high praise, doll, thank you!
Ali – aw, thanks!
Crystal – thanks for saying so!
by Lauren Dane July 28th, 2010 at 10:46 amYou didn’t say much about the book but what you did say made me want to read it.
Hot, very hot.
lorettaC
by lorettaC July 28th, 2010 at 10:47 amlbcanton@verizon.net
Heyya Lauren, Eden, RG and gang – popping my head up for a wave and to say I have been soooooo enjoying the stories all of you have been writing. I act like a total fangirl moron in the bookstore every time i go. I probably scare the other customers.
Had a discussion with a male friend just this morning about how women are becoming more confident in exploring their own sexuality and not feeling like kinkier explorations such as BDSM is off limits to them anymore. I credit the erotic romance industry and writers such as you Lauren for helping to break down the ridiculous myths that have inhibited our gender for so long. (gonna nab one of you to come on a show to discuss that someday soon btw).
by Rhian July 28th, 2010 at 11:51 amMuch love to all of you. xxxx Rhi
Rhi-
So glad you popped in!
And Lauren-Thank you so much for coming over, and for being your usual eloquent, amazing self. :)
by R.G. Alexander July 28th, 2010 at 11:56 amInteresting post! Thanks for stopping by!
by Chelsea B. July 28th, 2010 at 12:55 pmCongrats on the new release Lauren! And this one sounds great!
~~*Drea*~~
by Drea Becraft July 28th, 2010 at 1:20 pmI always love reading your thoughts on sex, erotica and pretty much anything! :) Thank you for coming over and blogging!
by Feisty July 28th, 2010 at 2:08 pmwow great post but it makes me want to go chasing running men lol . I told people bout ur fab week here http://meandicorner.blogspot.com/2010/07/more-news-to-share.html
by jennifer mathis July 28th, 2010 at 2:30 pmgreat post and I called my book buddy and told her to come read this . hope she can borrow a computer and do that very thing.
by Pamk July 28th, 2010 at 3:08 pmOoo I loved this post. I think BDSM is very hot but can be misunderstood so I love reading from both their POVs. Love it.
by cait045 July 28th, 2010 at 3:37 pmRhian-so nice to see you!
by Eden Bradley July 28th, 2010 at 3:40 pmI totally agree that erotic fiction written for women has helped us all to realize we aren’t alone in our desires, and that having them is okay. And Lauren has written a LOT, so I guess you could say she’s partly responsible for women everywhere accepting themselves as sexual beings. :)
Hi Lauren
by Diane Sadler July 28th, 2010 at 4:23 pmThis blog is why your books are so successful.
What a great post! You’ve pretty much encapsulated all the best parts about desire and possession.
*shared on facebook – http://www.facebook.com/people/Anna-Shah-Hoque/767402866
by Anna Shah Hoque July 28th, 2010 at 4:28 pmLoretta – thanks!
Rhian – I think a big part of it is that sexually graphic material written by women became more readily available. I can still remember reading Emma Holly’s Menage and thinking, WOW, this is what’s out there? Where can I get more?
Sexuality is like a snowflake – so when I write BDSM, I write it how it appeals to me. Women have a mind clit (not my phrase, I read it 5 or 6 years ago and loved it) so it seems natural to me to go beyond the physical descriptions of the act itself and delve into the whys of it.
Others do it differently – shrug – there’s no one true way. I’m just thrilled to see so much really well written erotic material out there (and you don’t need to look any further than this blog for some of the best voices in the biz)
by Lauren Dane July 28th, 2010 at 4:52 pmAww, RG – thanks for having me.
Chelsea – thank you.
Drea – mine or RG’s? I love mine, like whoa. And RG’s is also beautiful and sexy (Berkley Art Department is my hero)
Feisty – y’all are making me blushy and stuff. Thank you.
Jennifer – I actually had both those moments last week – the bag and the hot, gleaming hardbody runner guy. Love the warm weather ;)
by Lauren Dane July 28th, 2010 at 4:57 pmHiya Pam!
Cait – like anything with that sort of power, it can push buttons both negative and positive. It is inherently beautiful to me when it’s all about the depth of connection to a partner.
Eden –
pshaw! I’m just another writer in the genre. I look at people like Emma Holly for instance, who were writing books like Velvet Glove when there weren’t any other books of that nature written for women in a romantic sense and I hope I can be half as awesome.
Diane – thank you (your check is in the mail, LOL)
Anna – thank you!
by Lauren Dane July 28th, 2010 at 5:04 pmI just found out about this celebration! It looks really awesome!
by Gabrielle J. July 28th, 2010 at 7:20 pmYes, Emma Holly is one of the ground breakers, but you’ve been doing this a while, too, Lauren-one of the earlier authors in the NY romance publishers’ move (finally!) to meet the demand for erotic romance. And it’s about writing smart fiction, too, so that those anti-romance finger-pointers out there have less ammunition. For that we *heart* you. :)
by Eden Bradley July 28th, 2010 at 8:24 pmWow what a great celebration for RG’s new release. I have read a few of Lauren’s books (many more on my TBR list) and have realy enjoyed them :) It’s really hard to find a great BDSM writer and when I do I gobble it a up – Thank you. I have posted this site and recommended all your books to many of my friends. My l. sis is now as addicted to you all as much as I am :)
by Dawn July 28th, 2010 at 9:24 pmLauren Dane would be a worthy Smutketeer. Love her writing and I really enjoyed her post. I’ll pass the contest on through my facebook page.
DanaM
by Dana July 29th, 2010 at 7:13 amSqueeee!!!! Lauren, Congratulations!!!! Everyone has to race out to get this new book.
Wow, total fan girl moment.
April
by April Morelock July 29th, 2010 at 7:59 amI just love your writing Lauren! I am sharing this post with twitter!
by Amy Jacobs July 29th, 2010 at 3:02 pmhttp://twitter.com/StuffdBookshelf/status/19858237214
First off let me say I LOVE this site!!
Second of all, thanks for dropping by! I love to read what authors really talk about outside their books.
Hugs!
by Leilani July 29th, 2010 at 3:07 pmLeilani
vampiregirl813@gmail.com
You are all awesome. Thank you for all the kind words.
Eden – right back atcha
by Lauren Dane July 29th, 2010 at 6:22 pmI gotta say your cover is absolutely hotttt!
by Knicole July 29th, 2010 at 7:32 pm-Knicole
I have to say that the cover is what would grab my attention, but then the blurb would compell me to buy it!
Added to my “To Read” shelf @ GoodReads, which also posts to my Facebook page.
by Courtney S July 30th, 2010 at 4:09 amJust announced the winner in a new post! Thanks everybody!
by R.G. Alexander July 30th, 2010 at 10:24 amAND a HUGE Thank you to Lauren!
by R.G. Alexander July 30th, 2010 at 10:24 am